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How to Choose the Perfect Wedding Date

So, you got engaged and everybody and their sister wants to know when the big day is! Hold those horses before jumping into any commitments. Choosing the date is the first step in planning your wedding, but there are many things to consider first. In this article, you will learn about what to consider before choosing the perfect wedding date.

With the average engagementlasting between 12 and 18 months, that gives you plenty of time to prepare for the wedding. And in many cases, you will need that much time, considering some wedding dresses can take 6 months or longer to arrive.

Here are a list of things to take into consideration when choosing the perfect wedding date:

Check your venue’s calendar.

Before you get your heart set on a specific date, make sure that your venue of choice is available as venues tend to book up quickly. Get a list of available weekends from your preferred venue, and start from there.

Choose a meaningful date.

Wouldn’t it be the cherry on top of an already perfect venue, if you could get married on the anniversary of your first date? Or the day you made it official? It’s all very possible, which is why I recommend choosing a date that has a special meaning behind it.

Some other special dates include:

  • a first kiss
  • a first date
  • a loved one’s anniversary

While the exact date that you want may be unavailable depending on your venue’s availability, you can certainly get close and there are a lot of options to choose from.

Consider local events

Maybe there is a festival you want to attend, or a popular art exhibit coming to your city. Chances are your friends and family may want to attend as well. Consult your local calendar of events before making any final decisions on a wedding date.

Choose the right season.

If you don’t have a particular date in mind, the next option you may want to consider is the season. Not only does weather contribute to your wedding’s location, it can also help set a mood.

Your wedding is an extension of your personality. Are you a free-spirited, adventurous boho? Then you may want to consider a summer wedding. Do you love the snow and the joy of holiday spirit? You may consider a winter wedding. If rich colors, pumpkin spice lattes, and toasty campfires are your thing, then shoot for a fall wedding. Or, if you like pretty pastels and fresh blooms, then a spring wedding is probably your thing.

Stick within your budget.

If you don’t have a budget yet, that is something to take into consideration as your budget may likely affect your wedding date. Late summer/early fall is prime wedding season, and this is when vendors are often fully booked, especially photographers. Naturally, prices are going to be higher during this time of year. If you’re on a strict budget, then you may want to consider an off-season wedding in November, January or March. This may be the chance to have that beautiful winter wedding that you’ve always dreamed of.

Do you have a favorite holiday?

If you’ve always wanted a Christmas tree at your wedding, or you’d love a heart-covered wedding cake, sounds like you’re a holiday wedding couple. Want to celebrate your Irish heritage? Opt for March, when everyone is already in the St. Patty’s Day spirit. Try a wedding party in pastels and an Easter egg hunt in March or April. Have a Fourth of July celebration with flags, barbecue fare and fireworks. A plus: Some holidays fall on long weekends, which might make it easier for out-of-town guests to attend. On the flip side, some guests may not want their holiday weekends upended by a wedding, so take that into consideration as well.

Ask your guests

No matter which date you choose, there is always going to be someone that is unable to attend. However, you may consider asking your parents, grandparents, or anyone else of great importance, if there are certain dates that won’t work for them. If you have guests that are traveling from far away, you may want to consider what works for them too. Be careful with asking too many guests, as then you may feel obligated to choose a date that doesnt resonate with what you want. Remember to keep it simple.

Dates to avoid:

Be sure to check your own calendar for certain dates that you know are completely out of the question, such as reunions, anniversaries, or other big events like a festival or wedding. Also, think twice about having a wedding on Mother’s Day weekend (or Father’s Day). You may decide that you want children one day, and will end up celebrating your wedding anniversary on the same day. Lastly, be mindful or religious and/or cultural days, or three day weekends, as some guests may not attend.

Do you have anything to add to this list? Let us know in the comments!


Jessica Artus

Wife, mother, wedding photographer, blogger of beautiful weddings, styled editorials, DIY tutorials, wedding inspiration, planning and advice.

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